9th January 2022 - My mom passed away at 2.22pm at japan time, in Japan. At first, i am blur. I take time to process to my mind. Usually mama is always somewhere. Always call me. Always been around for me.
That day I just finished taking free sofa, given by some rich people living at 3-stories banglo at section 25. The couple even helped me transfer the sofa with a 4x4 wheel truck. Their daughters are all young, slim, and pretty. But I'm nobody to try and hit them. Hehe.
After taken sofa, i rearranged everything in the house. The hall and the kitchen. It was extremely tiring. Imagine I'm doing it all alone. At first carrying the sofa from down into the house at 3rd floor. Than after put in place, i vacuum around, and mop the floor. I got so exhausted. Once done, I went to bath and directly go to sleep.
At night I woke up, directly get ready myself for dinner. Well I haven't eaten for the whole day! So hungry and exhausted, still feel lots of muscle numbs at my legs, hand, all over the body.
I went out to Quayside mall, at first my plan is to go to Ole-ole Bali restaurants. But so full of people, until long queue infront. And most other restaurants also all full. Well it is Sunday. So lots of people eating ooutside. I finally decided to just go for Burger King. That also long queue.
Once I got my food, I have just sat on the table. Checking my phone, got a message from my stepfather. There written ...
I am so sorry, regret inform. mama past away today on 9/Jan at 14:22 (Japan time ). from today until two weeks time I am going to be very busy in order to close all the issues. I will let you know the details what happened to mama after few weeks. and I will go to Malaysia together with Terutoshi to see ,explain to you after COVID- finished and good time. I am really so sorry to talk this issues. I am going to be crazy. can not think anything. Thank you.
Guess what? My mind forced me to think back flashback all about my mom. What is the last words I heard from mama. When is the last time I talk to her? It was when I am staying at sister-in-law's house at Cheras. Mama kept talking about how much she miss Malaysia food, she miss it so much. She even say want to move to Malaysia and stay in Malaysia. I said it is better she stay in Japan, because she has her insurance cover everything for her. In Malaysia, no insurance would cover such disease, and lack of great doctors. Japan has far more talented doctors to look after her. I told mama to get healthy first, then only can comeback Malaysia to enjoy all the food she craves.
I keep thinking back all about mama. Mama has lived a cheerful and happy live. Her dream is to have all her children have a stable life, finished study, and have a family, and grandchildren. All her dream already come true. She met the grandchildren. All her children is now considered successful grown, have a stable life and can be independent. I am married and have a great job. My elder brothers all married, have children, and good stable job as well. My stepbrother also have a great job, working with government. So everything goes so well like mama wanted.
The only issue is, at first, my stepfather wants to do cremation. But mama's turn will take at least 2 days to get cremated. Me and brothers are all confused and struggled into discussion. At first, we just let uncle(the stepfather) decide as mama's latest husband. But when he chose to do cremation, we couldn't really accept it. So we start finding more information about japan, about how islam in japan bury people. We found out that about 99% all cremated, due to extremely high cost for the cemetery, workers, process, etc. Estimated cost around RM100,000 and above. That time we kinda gave up and thought, even if we told uncle to do islamic burial, we couldn't afford it. So we just let him proceed with cremation.
At Monday, me and brothers try to find help. Because my eldest brother called uncle to bury mama islamic way, but uncle refused and don't want to give any further information. So uncle has strongly decided to cremate mama. This made us worry. We scared to regret the whole life for letting mama cremated to ash. So we start fighting. We want to force uncle stop from cremating mama and do islamic burial. But uncle refused and silent from connection. This made us lose hope and just stop and try to let go. We did our best to try and have mama buried islamic way, but everything is up to uncle. As we don't even know which last hospital mama was, and where is the cremation place, all that.
At Tuesday, Johan contacted Jabatan Agama Islam Negeri Sembilan, the person in charge, Farid, request lots of information that only uncle know. So we try to ask uncle, but of course uncle won't give any. We really feel like giving up already. So i contacted stepbrother to request the information. Thank god he gave everything. So finally Farid can do all he can with his power, to contact uncle, and advise him to bury mama the islamic way.
Uncle got really angry, refused, and close the call from Farid, at first. Later on, Farid managed to finally talk and made uncle agree to bury mama in islamic way. But then, the cost is so insane.
Japan funeral cancelation cost is RM 158k...
Islamic funeral is RM 22k..
Uncle request to pay that amount if want to bury mama the islamic way. So we brothers have to figure it out. We contacnt mama's family side all to help with cancellation cost, while we brothers try to cover the islamic funeral cost. I even loan from creditcard to pay for mama. I really hope to have mama buried in islamic way. Now the money for islamic funeral is ready. Just the cancellation cost....I really hope my mama's family side would help to pay it. If they do, I would forgive them for the past hell they did to me, and always visit for CNY. If they don't want to, then I am ready to tax off my Kuantan house. And i will forget them forever.
I hope mama is buried in Islamic funeral. This is the last thing mama have wished for.
