Usually, at my point of view, whatever we are striving to be the best is actually to get people's attention. We like people. Especially, nice people.
However, always unconciously we hurt each other just to be the best. Do we actually realize what we actually want?
To get people's attention is not by hurting them. It is not necessary to be the best.
Like a cute baby. Is the baby far better than us to get the attention? It is not. Get the point?
There are few things to care and being care by people.
1) Always empathize. Empathize means understand other people. The more empathy we are, the more we care about other people. We care because we understand. Mature people always have a very good empathy.
2) Just express to people if we are feeling upset or embarassed. Some people won't understand, and by the worst they might even make a laugh at us. Just don't bother them. This kind of people won't care about us. What we want now is people that care about us. From there we can differentiate people that care among unknown people around. Anyway, honest expression means we are being realistic with ourselve in this world. Be proud to accept the truth :)
3) Congratulate people that get the best, either award, ranking, or anything else. We should know how happy would we feel when being the best, and having people around that congratulate us will make us feel happier, isn't it. People that get the best really like other people congratulate them. Just like us. We will like it when we are them. We might be shy and reply dishonestly when people congratulate us. So, don't take it for granted when people reply harshly.
4) Don't ever make a small of other people. That will mean that we are trying to prove that we are great or the best. And yes, it is actually to get more attention. OPEN OUR EYES~~~~ That way is absolutely wrong! Why would people care about us if we make a small of them. Would we? Do we like people that make a small of us? It is all back to number one, where empathy always important.
5) Easily give a hand. When we go to friend's house. They cook and serve us food. What would they feel when we suddenly help out the dish washing?... they might say, "no no, it's okay". They might show 'no need' expression. But in their mind, they really like it.
However, we must remember. We just help when we want to. If we don't want or not sure, don't help. To help people, there have to be borders. Our feeling can tell us. Follow the instinct.
6) Stop bringing topic in a stress thinking way. People don't like to be around with us if we are like that. Like, "why did he bring the ball like stupid. That one is so slow like shit".
Or "that girl must be a playgirl. Why dress like that? She think she's cute? Come on". If we are used to bring a topic like that, we should start to correct our mind. This way of talking will always make us headache, and people around don't like it, except if their talk are dirty too. Try to learn the right way of talk. Talk in a way calmful and interesting.
Like "look at him, bringing the ball. ALMOST.... almost theere!". "Look at that girl. Wow. So cute. I like it" :P
7) Don't ever talk bad about other people. Just quiet instead. If we feel that people is being wrong, than try to talk to that people nicely, and personally. There might be a reason why that people like that. If that people can change, than it's good. If not, we should understand that it is not easy to change ourselve.
8) Sharing is caring. But not over the limit.
Hmm that's all for today. It's raining outside.
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